This is by far the hardest time for me during this pregnancy. You hear throughout the whole 9 months how babies are usually 2 weeks early or 2 weeks late and you learn to accept that and I thought it would just be my growing excitement and anticipation that I would have to deal with… oh, how I was wrong. It all started the day after my estimated due date. My doctor said, “well, you are one day late now. We should talk about induction.” My heart sank. 1 day late!! I told her I want to hold off as long as possible. She said I have 1 week and 6 days till I need to be induced. I also told her that I went back 3 years and my cycle is 31 days not 28 so the estimated due date is incorrect. Too late for that! They cannot change it. Then the phone calls started from well meaning friends and family… Some worry that he will be too big and some believe my placenta has already stopped working and some just want to call everyday to see if your “in labor”. Wow! There is a lot of pressure that I did not anticipate at all. I have this date now hanging over my head and well meaning people that hold on to old beliefs. What about the “It’s ok if he’s 2 weeks late part”! Where did that go? It literally evaporated as soon as i passed that EDD and didn’t go into labor. I believe our bodies know when it is time to have our babies and here are some very interesting statistics and articles to consider.
P.S. If there was anything wrong with me or the baby, of course I would do whatever is necessary to have a healthy baby and that includes medical intervention.
Here are some statistics from a study of many countries about still births at 41 weeks. Some people believe they are more frequent after 40 weeks.
http://www.glorialemay.com/blog/?p=116
In France they changed the gestation period from 40 weeks to 41 weeks.
http://www.biomedsearch.com/nih/Neonatal-outcome-associated-with-singleton/20304783.html
First babies are usually 2 weeks early or 2 weeks late of their EDD’s and mostly later rather than earlier. Also EDD is only an estimation and mostly based off of a 28 day cycle. First babies are also statistically 8 or more days late from their EDD.
http://www.ejog.org/article/S0301-2115%2805%2900386-6/abstract
http://www.lamaze.org/Research/WhenResearchisFlawed/PosttermPregnancyCochrane/tabid/173/Default.aspx
Let the Baby Decide: The Case Against Inducing Labor
http://www.mothering.com/pregnancy-birth/let-the-baby-decide-the-case-against-inducing-labor
Please consider coming out now. I don’t mind that you are cozy in my womb and honestly I can wait till your ready. But it makes people uncomfortable when you pass up the imaginary estimated due date and then they want to do things to force you out instead of just letting our bodies do what they are naturally suppose to do. I will hold them off as long as possible, but just consider our negotiations.
Love,
Your Mom
There is a book on anything. No, REALLY! And since I have been pregnant I have been offered a book on EVERYTHING from, how to be pregnant, give birth, swaddle a baby till he can no longer move, Look good while being pregnant and many on how to properly breastfeed. Not to mention the million books on how to be a good parent. I feel like I can no longer look at another book. Give me a good fiction or literature story stat!
Eventually I started to trust that in all of us we posses these amazing instincts and if we just listen to them we will know how to do most of this stuff. We don’t need to read a huge book about it.
Turn off the voices that tell you how you must be.
Turn off society that tells you the 150 material things you will need to have a baby.
Use only the advice of wise women in your life who understand that everyone is different.
I do believe if you have complications with something you should surely get some help and that could be a book. However, I want to just see how it goes first and then ask questions 
Some of the best advice I have received so far has been to listen to my body and stop trying to control situations, I don’t have to take mommy and me classes to be a good parent, trust my instincts they will guide me and finally… let my monkey do it!
So with all that said, just know that I believe in all of us is important knowledge that we just need to listen to. And I know that for us(Jason and I) we are different and we will always be. This baby is in for an incredible ride.
This is the hardest part for me so far. The days are long and I feel a little more trapped because of my physical limitations. Not to mention the excitement of just wanting to see my baby. I wonder if he feels trapped also as there is less room for him to move and yet somehow he finds a way to kick me, sometimes with just such a force I wonder if he can bring me down. LOL! My mission right now is to give myself plenty of things to do to keep my mind from clock watching. Some days I succeed at doing this a lot better than others
Well sorta.. I can, it is just harder to do so. LOL! I am happy and excited and nervous. Baby is coming soon and it is still very surreal to me. I have so many questions that cannot be answered because we just have to figure it out as we go along, because every baby is different.
My birthing classes are almost over and I have truly enjoyed them. My husband and I have learned a lot. We feel grateful and lucky to have met such great couples and the Mid-wives that teach the class.
I am noticing the changes my body is going through again. My head is much less cluttered and I am more relaxed. I am having a difficult time dealing with anything that causes strife or conflict so I feel like I need to avoid it at this time and just enjoy the last few weeks with the peacefulness and this special time with husband. It feels good to let go and be patient with others and myself. My body is much heavier and a lot more tired and I just walk slower with a smile on my face. It is worth it. Yoga is amazing also. I have this DVD that I use that just makes everything feel good.
I cannot believe it has been 33 weeks already. In some ways it has been the shortest time and yet at the same time the longest time. All I know is that in about a month and a half I will have a small baby attached to me! I know our lives will change and believe me, in so many ways, they already have.
on the rocks with salt on the rim. ok maybe 2 margaritas. see you tonight in my dreams.
xoxo
I have been thinking about the birth process a lot lately. Go figure… I am surprised at how much my thoughts of birth and the the whole process have changed. If you asked me last year what I thought of natural childbirth I would have said that women who do it are brave and I admire their courage and not thought I was capable, but would have hoped that I could be that strong and determined.
Now.. When I tell people I would like to have a natural birth I usually get two responses… (and none are of beauty and strength) 1. Thats crazy! and 2. We’ll see because when you are in labor you will change your mind.
We’ll my lovelies. I hope your wrong because I want to experience my labor with all its pains and natural pain killers. Just wish me lots of love, strength and endurance. Even if you think its crazy 
I thought I would just put up some things I have had to deal with in my pregnancy so far and some solutions that have worked for me and are safe during pregnancy (from my research). I am creating a page about it to help women who are pregnant. It will be from Caffeine to Sciatica pain. I know there is a lot out there, but some of this stuff was hard to find and not a lot about it. I will put links when possible.
Here is my page so far. I will be adding to it often.
What the bump wants, the bump gets. Well not exactly because someone must still be in charge to make sure heartburn doesn’t happen. If I listen to the bump all the time we get ill. So sometimes I give in to him or maybe on little things everyday. I wonder if he will really grow up and love the things I ate while he was in utero. If he is a gourmet coffee drinker then we know it’s all true.
